“At the centre of your being you have the answer; you know who you are, you know what you want” – Lao Tzu

Thankfully these days, it is becoming more widely recognised that there is a vast spectrum of different gender, (a)sexual and relational expressions. Sadly though, it is my observation that the lived experiences of people who identify at differing points across these spectrums, are still not fully understood or accepted by the mental health profession as fully healthy and acceptable ways of ‘being human’. It is my view that many clinicians are still not well-educated when it comes to sexuality, BDSM, kink, polyamory and spirituality.

I believe all people deserve to meet with a therapist/counsellor who understands their identity issues and sexual practices without unnecessarily making that a focus of treatment and it is one of my goals to help change this knowledge gap. So to address this, I openly welcome working in a variety of ways with those who are engaged in consensual, albeit transgressive (a)sexualities and relationships who are seeking a place to understand and be understood.

These include, but are not restricted to people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual,  asexual, celibate, polyamorous, non-monogamous, or swingers and those involved in Leather, BDSM or Kink lifestyles or practices, anyone on the trans and gender variant spectrum (e.g. trans women, trans men, non binary gender people,  cross dressers/transvestites, genderqueer, androgynes, plus intersex people and those living with variations in sexual development).

I’m using the term Gender, Sexual and Relational Diversity (GSRD) as a more inclusive term for the more traditionally used LGBTQIA*. You can read more about this here.

Leathersex Counselling/Therapy/Mentorship

I can offer private counselling and psychotherapy and mentorship around a wide number of issues including counselling for people already in, who are seeking or who are drawn to and want to explore Gay/BDSM/Leather/Kink relationships.

These may include issues such as fetish questions, chemsex related issues, coming out issues, negotiating and contracting power dynamics and roles, fantasy exploration and understanding, issues around masculinity, relationality, anxiety, shame, guilt and overall self-acceptance, self-actualisation and spiritual/transpersonal issues.

On 3rd June 2016, I presented a Workshop at the International Psychosynthesis Congress: Psychosynthesis for the Future, in Taomino, Italy entitled: Living Gay Leathersex, a relational source on alternative sexualities for therapeutic training and practice

If you would like to discuss me holding this Workshop for you, or if you are looking for counselling/therapy or support on any issues like the ones above, please contact me here or give me a call 0n +44 (0)203 637 6566

• I have a listing in the Kink Aware Professionals Directory (KAP) here and work within the Clinical Practice Guidelines for Working with People with Kink Interests.
• Here is a link to a pretty good Guide on How to Choose a ‘Kink Aware’ Therapist
• This is a link to some things I will and won’t do when working as a ‘Kink Knowledgable’ Counsellor
• And here is a link to my Professional Boundaries Statement

Research

Although my main area of interest and experience is around gender, sexual and relational diversity, BDSM, kink and spirituality, particularly within the gay, male Leather scene, I also have a particular interest in and specifically focus on the following areas of research and practice: